"According to the BDSM community, the dominating partner in 50 Shades of Grey, Mr. Grey himself, is an abusive, controlling, selfish stalker who does not care about the safety, consent or desires of the woman he’s partnered himself with. The fact that many young women are looking at this dynamic and finding it sexy is not a sign of the popularity of BDSM, but a sign of rape culture. It shows that the abuse and sexual control of women is a desirable norm in our culture.
If this is what young women have been taught to find appealing, rather than a sexual relationship based on continuous, enthusiastic consent and communication, then it’s no wonder so many of them end up in abusive relationships. And it’s no wonder so many men consider controlling women and making them powerless to be an essential part of masculinity.”